You want a pink wedding, your fiancé doesn’t. If this sounds familiar – I’ve got a story (and a solution that works!) just for you…
If you know or have worked with Sasha Souza then this will be easy for you to picture, but if you haven’t then imagine for a moment a cute, bubbly, red-headed, well dressed woman with an edgy voice and lots of creative energy. That’s Sasha Souza of Sasha Souza Events.
I listened to a podcast of her presentation on colors at the Event Solutions Idea Factory that was included as part of my Wedding and Events Institute coursework and part of it made me laugh out loud. Not fake texting language LOL but a good, honest laugh.
Instead of trying to summarize it and risk losing its personality I’ve transcribed the funny part below. What she says is the key to not only getting your fiancé to agree to a pink wedding, but also making sure that he loves it too.
From Sasha Souza –
“Pink is one of those colors where the bride loves it and groom hates it, right off the bat. The grooms are like, ‘I don’t…no pink. Don’t talk to me about pink.’
I did a wedding for a boxer, who is very masculine, and we were sitting in a design meeting and we were going through all of his bride’s inspiration sheets, and every single piece of it was a shade of pink. Every single one. And the whole thing he said to me was ‘no pink.’ From the beginning.
And I’m thinking… you know what? You’re paying for this – you can have whatever you want. But as I’m going through these I’m also thinking oh boy… everything is pink. So I turn to him and I said – ‘I know you don’t like pink, but what about begonia?’
And he goes: ‘I’m cool with that.’
So guess what. The wedding had begonia. I never sold it to them as pink because he would have been like ‘I’m not paying for the flowers because they are pink.’ But they weren’t pink, they were begonia.
You have to know what your client is going to accept and what they are not and this particular client was thrilled at the end of the day because he didn’t think the wedding was pink.”
Don’t you just love that story? It’s such a simple but brilliant solution: Don’t call it pink!
People tend to talk in very vanilla terms when referring to color, as in ‘I like pink’ or ‘I like blue,’ but you need to start speaking in shades. Get creative when naming your colors because it will help everyone involved in your wedding day visualize exactly what you are talking about.
I’m notoriously bad at giving my posts and inspiration boards creative names. What can I say – I’m just not a wordy woman. But I’ve decided to take the challenge myself and in the spirit of this article I’ve re-imagined new titles for a few past posts and inspiration boards that are pink. Hopefully it will give you some ideas:
If you enjoyed this post be sure to read more about what I’m learning with The Wedding and Event Institute (here) and I’d love to know what your favorite shade of pink is. Leave a comment below to add to the idea list!
I’d like to give a big mahalo to Sherry Lu Photography for allowing me to use these beautiful images to spice this post up with!
Photography: Sherry Lu Photography // Dresses & Accessories: Pure Something Clothing Co. // Floral Design: Garden Party Flowers // Venue: Adorabelle Tea Room // Hair & Makeup: Hellcat Beauty // Originally shot for SMP Canada.