desert rose {guest post}

Retro Desert Wedding

Drumroll please…..! Today, our final entry in the ‘guest posts while I’m in Cuba’ comes to us from Lauren, the Calm Bride. And fittingly, after all the excitement over the last week with our lovely submissions, she’s here to tell us how to ‘stay calm and marry on!’

Take it away Lauren!

“I was one of those overly complicated girls who dreamt of having a massive over-the-top wedding. That is, until my best friend had a dream that I was getting married and it was complete chaos.. (thankfully she said my husband was wonderful!)

While I am not a wedding expert, ever since I was a little girl I‘ve been fascinated by weddings. Over the years I have been involved with the dreaming and planning of many weddings including the weddings of some of my closest friends. I’ve been behind the scenes at some of the most intimate moments as the clock ticks down. What has been a common thread? I’ve seen so many brides get SOOOO stressed out. So distracted by other people.. and their needs.. that they forget to take care of themselves in the days leading up to their wedding. That is exactly what inspired the Calm Bride concept. I desired to be that friend to brides that encourages them to relax… regain perspective… breathe & move forward.

Brides~ you don’t have to adopt the name Bridezilla~ it is more than possible to Stay Calm and Marry On!

Here are just a few tips:

1.  ASK FOR HELP! You have family~ you have bridesmaids~ & hey—your man may even want to take part in the planning process. What areas can you entrust to others to take care of? (Generally, it is way more fun when you plan with people). You also might want to consider getting a wedding planner to take a load off.

2. PACE YOURSELF in the planning process. Use a Calendar- whether it’s on your iPhone, via Gmail, or a tangible calendar (yes, they still exist). Pencil in deadlines- but don’t be hard on yourself if for some reason you have to make changes.

3. BE FLEXIBLE. Flexibility will help you to roll with the punches. Things happen, and sometimes when our expectations are set really high, we can get really let down. That’s when we start to freak out… and what good does that do anyone?

Another word for Bridezilla is Control Freak. Learn to let go~ while details are important, weigh their importance.

Lastly, I will leave you with a response to a question I asked @theknot the other day~

What advice do you have for brides to stay calm in the days leading up to their wedding?

Their answer?

@theCalmBride ~ Make sure everything is getting checked off your to-do list and focus on the idea that you are marrying the person you love!

Brides~ when all else fails… go back to point A. Remember that you are marrying the person you love. And that your wedding is more than just a day…it’s forever.”

For more advice from The Calm Bride click here (and check out this adorable picture of Lauren as a flower girl! hehehe – love it!).

Calm Bride

Other than offering brides advice as the Calm Bride, Lauren Michelle has been pinning it up on the Pinterest, and is grateful to have been a part of a team that has helped pioneer their social media department giving away free wedding invitations for the whole of 2012 to brides and grooms in the US, UK & Canada. She has also been a primary contributor to their Free Wedding Invitations blog not only offering advice to brides and other bridal party members, but also providing insight as to the origins and meanings of many commonly practiced wedding traditions today. Lauren is quite the free spirit, she loves everything to do with weddings, creative arts, people and beauty. Especially drawing attention to the most intricate beauty found in the simple things of life.

photo credits: bridesmaids, girl in front of cacti, red heart shoe clips, red soda pops, ‘best day ever’ sign, cha cha cha girl, vintage red car, red rose, Sonoran desert, Arizona. 

About Sara Burnett

Editor of Burnett's Boards, which she founded to showcase global creativity in the wedding industry. Sara currently lives out of a suitcase while island hopping the Caribbean and beyond. Learn More // Follow on Instagram.